According to US Bureau of Labor Statistics, in May 2020, there were 254,000 people working in a child care centre. The internet recently came to the defense of a daycare worker who refused to change a child’s diaper when she was not working.
Taken to the popular Reddit “AmITheA**hole” forum, a woman who goes by the username u/Commercial_Object941 describes his meeting with one of the mothers of a child she takes care of at work. The Reddit user thinks she might be the asshole after refusing to change her child’s diaper when she was “out of the clock”. The post has 10,000 upvotes with over 1,000 comments.
After being invited to a friend’s barbecue, u/Commercial_Object941 realized that one of the children she takes care of at daycare was there with her family. The mother then asked the OP (Original Poster) if she could quickly change her child’s diaper. Confused, the OP politely declined saying she was “not on time”.
The mother explained that her husband usually has a duty to change diapers because she is germaphobic and is afraid of getting sick from an incident that happened before. However, the educator said no.
“She seemed really shocked by this and kept on explaining how much she hates changing diapers and that her husband wasn’t there so he couldn’t help,” the Reddit user shared.
“I just told her that I didn’t like changing them either and I think it’s inappropriate for her to keep insisting when I’ve already told her no. She then said ‘it’s devastating to me. to learn that my daughter’s favorite teacher has so little empathy’ and after that, I just walked away.”
When she saw the mother and child leaving the party, the OP texted her boss to tell him what had happened in case there was a discussion at daycare.
“My boss just told me I could talk to him more about it when I get back. [from vacation] and she let me know if the mother said anything to her, but it seemed like I was right to say no,” she wrote. “I am not her employee and even if I was, I still think it’s not something you should ask someone to do after hours.”
In recent updates to the post, the PO addressed the concerns of some about the CPS’s involvement, to which the PO said she had not.
Commenters were quick to defend the Reddit user.
“‘Hi, I know you’re off today and we’re both invited to this party, but since you work at the subway, can you make me a sandwich?’ This is how ridiculous she looks ignoring the fact that she shouldn’t be alone with her baby if she can’t take care of her properly,” u/Lakesiren wrote, receiving the highest comment with 16,000 upvotes.
“Yuck,” added u/Nay_nay267. “If the mother is germaphobic and suffers from emetophobia, why did she have children? My comment was to point out that she uses them as an excuse to abuse her child and not change her diaper, which makes her wallowing in his own filth.”
“You don’t work for free,” u/Tinabird20 said. “What was her plan if you weren’t there? Just not changing the diaper? Maybe she’s being dramatic, maybe she has a real mental problem. This child. Don’t expect that that you work in your free time.